it's working
Sep. 12th, 2024 10:02 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
alicevangelineSo, me taking this job and hoping it would be grounding in some ways, it's working.
Besides being tired, and occasionally stressed, i have nowhere near the level of anxiety I used to have.
I still have the trauma response (that I am realizing is a trauma response) of any time someone says "can we talk" or "stop by" or corrects me I have an 'am i in trouble' reaction. But I have an immediate supervisor who's very kind and supportive, a grateful dead fan, and pretty much the antidote to my panic.
I also have the the grumpy half-out-the-door this place-is-stupid-sometimes sulkiness, but the thing is that the Place is Trying to get better, which counts for a lot. And i'm not the only person trying to fix shit- about 6 of us are working as a team to take us into this century still. And I do not currently work with any idiots, which also says a lot.
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other stuff -
I made progress talking to mom's bank about her bank account! oof. that was a long conversation.
They worked with me to establish my identity so they could even answer any questions.
What I learned was that the account has been closed and kind of drawn out to zero.
I can dispute the charges that went thru after she passed, but I probably need to do that in person. I think it's an amount of 600 that I'd be disputing.
Next, I asked if they could send me a statement of those charges from date-of-death to account closure, so I COULD review and determine about disputing them.
The fact that the account is closed, and that there's no money in it, means that there's no funds to pay any outstanding legit bills. Which can theoretically make those bills go away ('notice of insolvency to creditors') but if there's 600 that shouldn't have been paid out, i might need to reverse SOME of that to get some of the other bills paid (like those incurred before she died she never paid for. ). Mostly it's like amazon prime, extended warranty, etc.
In order to dispute 'in person at a branch" i'd have to drive to the nearest branch which is 90 minutes away. So, I figure, I should review the statement to see whether to bother with it.
So I'm basically a lot closer in terms of The Estate.
Besides being tired, and occasionally stressed, i have nowhere near the level of anxiety I used to have.
I still have the trauma response (that I am realizing is a trauma response) of any time someone says "can we talk" or "stop by" or corrects me I have an 'am i in trouble' reaction. But I have an immediate supervisor who's very kind and supportive, a grateful dead fan, and pretty much the antidote to my panic.
I also have the the grumpy half-out-the-door this place-is-stupid-sometimes sulkiness, but the thing is that the Place is Trying to get better, which counts for a lot. And i'm not the only person trying to fix shit- about 6 of us are working as a team to take us into this century still. And I do not currently work with any idiots, which also says a lot.
----
other stuff -
I made progress talking to mom's bank about her bank account! oof. that was a long conversation.
They worked with me to establish my identity so they could even answer any questions.
What I learned was that the account has been closed and kind of drawn out to zero.
I can dispute the charges that went thru after she passed, but I probably need to do that in person. I think it's an amount of 600 that I'd be disputing.
Next, I asked if they could send me a statement of those charges from date-of-death to account closure, so I COULD review and determine about disputing them.
The fact that the account is closed, and that there's no money in it, means that there's no funds to pay any outstanding legit bills. Which can theoretically make those bills go away ('notice of insolvency to creditors') but if there's 600 that shouldn't have been paid out, i might need to reverse SOME of that to get some of the other bills paid (like those incurred before she died she never paid for. ). Mostly it's like amazon prime, extended warranty, etc.
In order to dispute 'in person at a branch" i'd have to drive to the nearest branch which is 90 minutes away. So, I figure, I should review the statement to see whether to bother with it.
So I'm basically a lot closer in terms of The Estate.