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littabitta news
Oct. 1st, 2020 11:15 am- i mayyyy have had too much coffee so far. 2 small cups and a large to-go cup.and choco espresso beans.
- i got the newsletter from my old homies (my old work) and i am so very very proud of what they're doing. I can see my influence there but also lots more that isn't/wasn't me. I know it's not a birdie leaving the nest, but that's how it feels for me to not be there.
- we're getting some press over here for some cool stuff we're doing.
- i had some stress last week about work and that's greatly diminished. maybe more on that later. I also had health stress last week and that's better too.
- the actual thing 1: had another meeting to re-establish evaluating megan for iep. she has no documented learning disability or medical need - that's what this is about. we suspect a few things. The first meeting for this was in March then the testing got postponed obvi. so we had to start over. I learned a few things about how she is at school --- i didn't realize she's such a fidgeter (without being disruptive) or that she has trouble organizing herself.
I have some FEELINGS about this, not too strong, but:
a) poor kiddo. They mentioned something like- she's working so hard to fit in but doesn't automatically know what's expected. She's trying really hard to do What's Expected - which stresses her out and makes her stutter and panic if she 'fails.' Poor kid.
b) Lovely kid. While she seems to have some autismy things like reciprocity and off-topicness and sensory things, she is very observant and perceptive about facial expressions and kindness. She really can be quite kind and gentle. Herself comes first, but she is a little mama to the people she loves. I sent the team Meg Drawings because she would not be able to draw such awesome facial expressions in her cartoons if she didn't notice them.
c) Bright kid. I also sent them some of her Drawing Challenges :) She reads at a pretty high level (7th for 3rd grade) and I think she wouldn't be able to do her combo challenges if she weren't pretty smart. For example, we said 'dancing zucchini,' or 'cat peeking out of a soup can' or 'tentacle sticking out of a book' and she drew them no problem. I think that takes some kinda brain.
d) poor me. i kind of hate to say it, but, man, ty is a lot of work to parent and teach. (We had a meeting about him this morning which is real news 2). Everything they said was so darn familiar but softened, because she's less disruptive, and better with eye contact. (Because she's a girl? She cares more about people pleasing? because she's unique? because she's my child and i understand people ok so my gift mixed with her challenge = unique blend?) Anyway i had a moment of - Maaannnnn.....basically, can a lady get a break?! (Au, that's what i was calling you about, to whine for 2 minutes) But after just having that feel (without crying or anything) for a little bit,...
e) Go Team. I've been asked for advice about kid diagnoses like 3 times ever and what i said those times was: a label for your kid does not change your kid. It's making it easier to understand and work with what's already there and that makes it a relief. We've kind of always said both kids are handfuls. We love them both with all our hearts. I think it's honest to say they are each a lot of work and they're worth it. So, working on a label for my meg, figuring out what her Deal is and learning how to teach her what she really needs - that's a good thing. The team is mostly the same as has already worked with Ty. My mom saw that they really know their stuff, are doing their best, appreciate her strengths and see her challenges, and care about her. That's all i can ask for.
- i got the newsletter from my old homies (my old work) and i am so very very proud of what they're doing. I can see my influence there but also lots more that isn't/wasn't me. I know it's not a birdie leaving the nest, but that's how it feels for me to not be there.
- we're getting some press over here for some cool stuff we're doing.
- i had some stress last week about work and that's greatly diminished. maybe more on that later. I also had health stress last week and that's better too.
- the actual thing 1: had another meeting to re-establish evaluating megan for iep. she has no documented learning disability or medical need - that's what this is about. we suspect a few things. The first meeting for this was in March then the testing got postponed obvi. so we had to start over. I learned a few things about how she is at school --- i didn't realize she's such a fidgeter (without being disruptive) or that she has trouble organizing herself.
I have some FEELINGS about this, not too strong, but:
a) poor kiddo. They mentioned something like- she's working so hard to fit in but doesn't automatically know what's expected. She's trying really hard to do What's Expected - which stresses her out and makes her stutter and panic if she 'fails.' Poor kid.
b) Lovely kid. While she seems to have some autismy things like reciprocity and off-topicness and sensory things, she is very observant and perceptive about facial expressions and kindness. She really can be quite kind and gentle. Herself comes first, but she is a little mama to the people she loves. I sent the team Meg Drawings because she would not be able to draw such awesome facial expressions in her cartoons if she didn't notice them.
c) Bright kid. I also sent them some of her Drawing Challenges :) She reads at a pretty high level (7th for 3rd grade) and I think she wouldn't be able to do her combo challenges if she weren't pretty smart. For example, we said 'dancing zucchini,' or 'cat peeking out of a soup can' or 'tentacle sticking out of a book' and she drew them no problem. I think that takes some kinda brain.
d) poor me. i kind of hate to say it, but, man, ty is a lot of work to parent and teach. (We had a meeting about him this morning which is real news 2). Everything they said was so darn familiar but softened, because she's less disruptive, and better with eye contact. (Because she's a girl? She cares more about people pleasing? because she's unique? because she's my child and i understand people ok so my gift mixed with her challenge = unique blend?) Anyway i had a moment of - Maaannnnn.....basically, can a lady get a break?! (Au, that's what i was calling you about, to whine for 2 minutes) But after just having that feel (without crying or anything) for a little bit,...
e) Go Team. I've been asked for advice about kid diagnoses like 3 times ever and what i said those times was: a label for your kid does not change your kid. It's making it easier to understand and work with what's already there and that makes it a relief. We've kind of always said both kids are handfuls. We love them both with all our hearts. I think it's honest to say they are each a lot of work and they're worth it. So, working on a label for my meg, figuring out what her Deal is and learning how to teach her what she really needs - that's a good thing. The team is mostly the same as has already worked with Ty. My mom saw that they really know their stuff, are doing their best, appreciate her strengths and see her challenges, and care about her. That's all i can ask for.