so much better
stll not 100, but have not coughed ONCE since 2 am!
Don't need tissues really!
Still have EyelashItis !
Not wheezing this morning (although I was yesterday) and my voice is still fried but only a little.
My fashion this school year is pretty subdued but I think I'm finally finding my vibe. It's tricky because the super & the exec assist are SO Fashionable, and the others are varying degrees of biz casual, including 'now we can wear jeans.'
I realize I feel kinda icky when I wear jeans unless my top-half is 'put together,' and that I feel better in my stretchy Ruby Rose trousers or black jeans, at least, with loafers rather than sneakers or winter boots.
Sure, some of it is caving to societal pressures but i feel better so we'll go with that.
Anyway a lot of navy & brown & black & gray this year. I have a navy blue top & dark brown pants today - maybe not enough contrast but fine - and yesterday was gray & black stripes with gray pants.
So I guess I'm going with 'classic comfy neutral.'
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meg and I went to A Mall this weekend (only 90 minutes away!) and it was fun; there was a formal wear shop 'coming soon' and it had amazing gowns in the windows. She's expressed body dysmorphia (using those words? she's 11?) and some gender dys..morphia? phoria? idk. We had a good talk I think. I wanted to stop by Ulta because they have tree hut shave-reducing lotion or something like that. she's self conscious about her leg hairs, so that's an option for her, plus i like it anyway and plan to use it. She kinda freaked feeling like she didn't Fit In at Ulta, though, or belong there. I said gender's a spectrum and she's not anywhere at the most extreme ends where people would be noticing her, but rather in the middle where a lot of people are. (And we left anyway.) She reminded me it's not a spectrum like a line, but like this (makes diamond with hands) and points to the ends - this is femme, this is masc - and points to slightly below center toward the masc point and says "I am here."
Cool. By that point we were by the formal gowns. "tbh i would rock that pink one ANYWAY."
I'm glad she can think about those things and talk about them with me. I'm glad her besties are gay and/or nonbinary. I'm glad it's not the 90s anymore in this regard (or other eras)..
Don't need tissues really!
Still have EyelashItis !
Not wheezing this morning (although I was yesterday) and my voice is still fried but only a little.
My fashion this school year is pretty subdued but I think I'm finally finding my vibe. It's tricky because the super & the exec assist are SO Fashionable, and the others are varying degrees of biz casual, including 'now we can wear jeans.'
I realize I feel kinda icky when I wear jeans unless my top-half is 'put together,' and that I feel better in my stretchy Ruby Rose trousers or black jeans, at least, with loafers rather than sneakers or winter boots.
Sure, some of it is caving to societal pressures but i feel better so we'll go with that.
Anyway a lot of navy & brown & black & gray this year. I have a navy blue top & dark brown pants today - maybe not enough contrast but fine - and yesterday was gray & black stripes with gray pants.
So I guess I'm going with 'classic comfy neutral.'
--
meg and I went to A Mall this weekend (only 90 minutes away!) and it was fun; there was a formal wear shop 'coming soon' and it had amazing gowns in the windows. She's expressed body dysmorphia (using those words? she's 11?) and some gender dys..morphia? phoria? idk. We had a good talk I think. I wanted to stop by Ulta because they have tree hut shave-reducing lotion or something like that. she's self conscious about her leg hairs, so that's an option for her, plus i like it anyway and plan to use it. She kinda freaked feeling like she didn't Fit In at Ulta, though, or belong there. I said gender's a spectrum and she's not anywhere at the most extreme ends where people would be noticing her, but rather in the middle where a lot of people are. (And we left anyway.) She reminded me it's not a spectrum like a line, but like this (makes diamond with hands) and points to the ends - this is femme, this is masc - and points to slightly below center toward the masc point and says "I am here."
Cool. By that point we were by the formal gowns. "tbh i would rock that pink one ANYWAY."
I'm glad she can think about those things and talk about them with me. I'm glad her besties are gay and/or nonbinary. I'm glad it's not the 90s anymore in this regard (or other eras)..